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More than a century ago during the period of rapid industrialization, the ‘human factor’ and his or...
We need to talk. These words often trigger anxiety, whether at home or at work. In fact, for many, announcing feedback is right behind the dentist and tax return in terms of popularity. As coaches, we know good ways to counter this discomfort: Using the classic sandwich approach or the burger-method, where feedback is constructively wrapped between two or more layers of praise, recognition and mayonnaise. These methods are particularly effective when it comes to correcting errors on a factual level. However, if the focus of the feedback is on emotions or a sustainable change in behaviour, traditional feedback does not seem to be sufficient. If real change, if more creativity and personal responsibility are to be encouraged, feedback should not be improved, but be based on completely different basic assumptions. The first basic assumption that needs to be reconsidered is that the person giving feedback knows better what should have been done or said.
Wait a minute. I saw exactly that person X didn't react or act correctly...? And is it also my job to do just that?
Yes, and at the same time, this approach is often too easy. What would happen if we, as feedback givers, did not immediately assume that we knew the right answer? What would it look like if we took the trouble to ask questions and took an active interest in the other person's why? What was the context that led them to think the action was appropriate at that moment? This kind of questioning leads to a radically different feedback process. It respects the other person's choices and focuses on their meaning-making process rather than the behaviour or what is said. This is the second crucial building block. Harvard psychologist Robert Kegan coined the term "deconstructive feedback" to describe this process, as it respects a person's meaning-making process and deconstructs it together. This approach requires labour of love rather than mayonnaise. In its entirety, this approach represents the core of a coaching mindset for leaders: genuine curiosity about the other person's way of thinking and sense-making. This attitude transforms the feedback process into an open dialogue. Managers can adopt a coaching leadership style. By inviting employees to go beyond linear thinking and engage in a discussion about a contextualised sense-making process rather than pointing out good and bad behaviours, a feedback culture can be established that is in tune with the demand for feedback.
Anne Caspari (MSc) is a specialist for change and transformative proceses, in the context of personal development as well as leadership training and culture change.
Prior to becoming a coach in 2002, she worked as an expert for strategic environmental planning. This work allows her to draw on over 3 decades of experience with complex systems, adaptive pushback and the integration of obstacles to self-organisation. Combining this knowledge with over 16 years of transformative coaching and 12 years of leadership training and development gives her a comprehensive approach for her coaching practice.[nbsp]
In her work she integrates the best of Integral Theory, adult development, complexity thinking, Theory U and Robert Kegan’s work on „Immunity to Change“.[nbsp] In 1:1 coaching, she helps clients to identify and integrate unconscious patterns and resistances to growth (developmental coaching). She works with leaders to support them in their journey towards effective leadership and greater impact (executive coaching). Her focus is the leader ‘s growth edge in cultivating critical capacities needed to successfully navigate the complexity and uncertainty of today’s business environment.[nbsp] She also works with teams and helps them identify obstacles to internal alignment and coherence, and to release team intelligence. She facilitates change processes and acts as a partner to her clients in fostering emergent (micro)processes in the direction of bigger themes, such as purpose, values, mindset and culture shifts (change and organisational development). She is fluent in English, German and Italian.[nbsp]
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More than a century ago during the period of rapid industrialization, the ‘human factor’ and his or...
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